Q: I’m in my mid-40s, straight, never married. Ten months ago, my girlfriend of three years dumped me. She got bored with the relationship and is generally not the marrying type. The breakup was amicable. I still love her and miss her. Last week, I wrote her a letter saying that I still love her and want us to get back together. She wrote me a nice letter back saying she doesn’t feel passion for me and we’re never getting back together. Over the past few months, I’ve started dating another girl. She’s pretty, smart, sexy, and kind. If I proposed, she’d probably say yes. I want to get married. The problem is that I don’t have the passion for her that I had for my previous girlfriend. So do I “settle” for Girlfriend No. 2 or start my search all over? Please don’t give me the bullshit that love can happen at any age. At my age, the number of single women without kids is low. How many married people settle for someone who is a good person but not their true love? —No Clever Acronym
Q: My first refractory period—the time it takes me to get ready to have sex again after my first orgasm—is shorter than the time it takes me to lose my erection. I was in a relationship and wasn’t using condoms anymore by the time I figured this out, so it was just generally good times—I’d blow my load, take less than a minute to catch my breath, and be ready to go again. But now that I’m single and entering the dating pool, I’m going to be wrapping it again. Obviously. But I’m not 100 percent sure it’s safe to blow two loads into one condom. I’m not sure how much ejaculate I’m producing the second time I come, but it’s surely less than the first time. I’m not confident that “second” erection would survive the whole exercise of taking off the condom and tying it up and then putting on another condom, but I would like to avoid that rigmarole if possible. So is it safe to blow two loads in a single condom? —Two Pump Champ
